Message From Anonymous
Hi "T". I'm a bottom but I wanted to try top. Any advice for an amateur top?
Hello and good for you! Well, the best I can offer is to just dive right in (no pun intended lol)! If the bottom and you know each other then you both know how to turn the other on. Play off of that. Even if you don’t know each other, be vocal. Don’t be afraid to tell him where to kiss you, how to suck you, what works and what doesn’t. Likewise for the bottom, ask him if it feels good when you _____ or if he wants you to _____.
When you can’t stand the foreplay any longer, lube yourself and him up well. Go slow. As a bottom, you should know that it hurts like fuck if a top tries to enter too quickly and you aren’t ready. From there, let your body take over. The less you think about it being your first time, the less performance anxiety you’ll have. Don’t be afraid to show off a little, either! You know how you like getting fucked and chances are, he’ll like it, too. If you feel like you’re gonna cum too soon, play with different positions. Pulling out and moving around for a quick second could be just the break you need to get back in the game for a good while longer!
Just remember, always be careful when you start off. Go easy, if not for the bottom’s sake then for your own. After you find your rhythm, go for it! Keep the bottom in mind, though. You shouldn’t be the only one getting some kicks out of all this! Find what works for both of you and you’ll be a verse/bttm before you know it!